It has been four years since Buckley’s passing. She died on November 28, 2008, which was the Friday after Thanksgiving that year. Rather than observing her anniversary on the actual date, I will always mark this event on Thanksgiving weekend. Even though I still miss her every day, after four years, the sadness is tempered by appreciation and gratitude for the amazing changes she has brought to my life, and, through her book, to the lives of so many others.
Without her, I might not have become a writer. Without her, The Conscious Cat might not exist. Even though Amber inspired this site, its original purpose, in addition to sharing my passion for and knowledge about cat health, was to build a following prior to publishing Buckley’s Story. Most importantly, without her, my heart might not have been opened to the many wonderful lessons she taught me during her brief time with me.
Those of you who have read Buckley’s Story already know that I first met her in the spring of 2005, when she was brought into the animal hospital I managed at the time. When I left my job a year later to start my own business, I missed her too much, and eventually ended up adopting her. She was with me for two more years, until she succumbed to heart disease.
I believe that it’s important to mark these anniversaries in a way that’s meaningful. I previously wrote about different ways to memorialize your cat; the best memorial is the one that has meaning for you.
For me, remembering Buckley means spending quiet time reflecting on the years we shared. There are always tears, but as the years go by, there are more smiles than tears as I recall more happy memories than sad ones. I feel that Buckley is always with me, but this conscious observance of the anniversary of her passing helps me honor the memory of her wonderful spirit and the amazing changes she has brought into my life.
The words that best summarize Buckley’s impact on my life are the same words you’ll find on the last page of her book:
Endless Love and Joy
Mews and Nips will return next Saturday.