I like a good drama as much as the next person. Intrigue, passion, mystery – what’s not to like? But when I say I like drama, I’m talking about fiction, not real life. When it comes to real life drama, I don’t want any part of it.
There’s an awful lot of drama everywhere you look these days. It’s probably disproportionately represented in online communities – for some, interacting with others online seems to remove a “courtesy filter” that sometimes stops drama from happening in “real life.”
Drama can be anything from gossiping to constant complaining to being unkind to another person. Drama is highly toxic – it feels heavy, suffocating and constricting. And it’s highly seductive, because once you engage, it becomes difficult to escape.
If there’s drama in your life, you need to take a good look at yourself – because chances are, on some level, you’re creating it. Are you looking for some excitement in your life? Did you grow up with lots of drama, so being around it feels comfortable? You may be surprised at the answers to these questions.
Make a conscious choice to disengage from the drama in your life. Don’t participate in gossip. Don’t feed into other peoples’ drama. Reconsider unhealthy relationships and get rid of the energy vampires in your life, or limit contact with them as much as possible. If there are people in your life who thrive on drama, let them know you’ve made a decision to not participate any longer, and invite them to do the same. Communicate honestly and directly with others.
Cats don’t like drama, either. They prefer life to be peaceful. They’re sensitive to the energy around them, and they tend to take on their human’s problems, sometimes, in an effort to heal them. That’s not only an awful lot of hard work for a cat, it’s also detrimental to their well-being.
You may never be able to completely eliminate drama from your life, but you can choose to not play the game. I guarantee you that your life will be more peaceful. And so will your cats’ lives.
Photo of Conchita by Nikki Mantel