Are you your own worst critic? Do you feel like nothing you do could ever be good enough? We probably all do this at one time or another, but if you are constantly judging yourself for not being perfect, it may be time to take a good look at your internal self talk and make a different choice.
Be mindful of your inner voice
Chances are, putting yourself down has become an ingrained habit. Be especially wary of “all or nothing” thinking. One negative experience does not make you a failure. Become aware of your thought patterns. The next time you find yourself talking down to yourself, make a conscious effort to stop the thought and replace it with something kinder.
Don’t say things to yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else
Talk to yourself the same way you would do a dear friend. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. Poor self talk is insidious: if you don’t talk to yourself with care and respect, how can you expect others to treat you that way?
Accept what you can’t change
Last Sunday, I wrote about accepting what is. This applies here, too: sometimes, we just make mistakes, and there’s nothing we can do to change that. Acceptance is a much more productive choice than beating ourselves up over something that is already done.
I don’t think cats even know the meaning of being too hard on yourself. I can’t see a cat thinking “oh man, I shouldn’t have let that mouse get away from me. I’m so stupid! I’ll never catch another mouse again!” If anything, she would probably think “I’m the great huntress! I could have caught that mouse if I really wanted to, but I had better things to do.”
Are you your own worst enemy? How do you stop yourself from being too hard on yourself?
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Cat cafés have become incredibly popular over the last few years and are popping up around the world. But how about a cat cinema? A London couple is raising funds to open Great Kitten, a place where guests can enjoy a movie while cuddling up with a cat. They plan to adopt 10 homeless cats who are known to enjoy the presence of humans and who will be free to roam around the cinema. They also plan to raise awareness of cat welfare and will also work with charities to provide “cat therapy” for people suffering with mental health problems, learning difficulties or life-threatening illnesses. You can read more about this exciting venture on the London Evening Standard website.
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Happiness can only exist in acceptance. – George Orwell
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