Just for today…I will not worry

Worrying is like praying for something you don’t want to happen.

I grew up being a worrier.  I could easily come up with the worst possible scenario for any given situation, and then turn it over and over in my mind endlessly, to the point where I would often let myself get paralyzed with worry.  I knew that this propensity to worry was holding me  back from  letting myself live my life to its fullest potential. 

When I began to understand and really believe that we have the power to control our thoughts, and that our thoughts are vibrations that affect what we experience in our reality, I was able to short-circuit the worry cycle more easily.  It became clear to me that worrying and obsessing over what might happen would only attract the very thing I did not want into my experience.  Worrying also made a statement that I didn’t trust in the wisdom of the universe, and I truly believe that Source wants me to be happy.  I know on a deep level that things will always work out.  All is well. 

We all have the power to choose our thoughts.  We can make a conscious choice that we want to feel good.  Once you make this commitment to yourself, it becomes easier to redirect your thoughts from worrying about the future and to focusing on the present moment instead.  Worrying simply feels too bad for you to keep doing it.

Animals remind us of this every day.  They live fully in each moment and give all their attention to what is happening in that moment with no thoughts towards the future. 

Start today.  Make the commitment that just for today, you will not worry.  You might just get addicted to that worry-free way of being!

Slow down

Slow down, you move too fast
you’ve got to make the morning last
just kickin’ down the cobble stones
looking for fun and feeling groovy.

Remember the old Simon and Garfunkel Song (The 59th Street Bridge Song)?  Do you move too fast through your days, or do you take the time to kick the cobble stones and feel groovy?

When I rush through my days without being fully present in each moment, I feel like time has passed me by.  I don’t feel like I’ve accomplished anything, and at the end of the day, I just feel exhausted.  It’s easy to get caught up in this mode of being – we all have to do lists that are a mile long, and demands on our time are coming at us from all directions.  When days are that full, it becomes even more important to slow down and remind ourselves to stay in the moment.

Animals are masters at this.  That’s what they do – they live in each moment.  Need some help to remind you to slow down?  Take a break.  Take a few moments to pet your cat or dog.  It will slow you down and remind you that life is not to be rushed through, but  to be savored.

Slow down today.  You may just end up feeling groovy!

Meditate with your pet

Meditation is usually viewed as a spiritual practice, but research shows that there are innumerable health benefits as well.  Most physical illness is caused by stress, and meditation provides stress relief by calming down the mind and body.  A regular meditation practice is one of the best things you can do for your mind and body.

I often hear people say “I can’t meditate.  I can’t shut down my thoughts.” 

You don’t have to.   Simply making the commitment to sit quietly for fifteen, ten, even five minutes a day can have beneficial effects.  Don’t judge yourself – if you find that you can’t quiet your mind, try and simply acknowledge your thoughts, and then gently let them go.

Your pets can help you meditate.  If you can’t clear your mind, try focusing on the purring cat in your lap or the sleeping dog by your side.  Focus on the love you share with your pet.  While this may not be what some purists consider meditation, I can guarantee you that it will change your state of mind to one of peace and relaxation.

contemplating-007Amber is meditating.

Do you feel connected?

There is an unseen energy that exists in and around every living thing.  Some people call it God.  It has nothing to do with a particular religion.  Maybe you’re more comfortable with calling it Spirit, Universal Flow, All That Is.  My preferred term is Source.

We are always connected to Source, but sometimes, we forget.  It’s like our conscious awareness of this connection has temporarily slipped away.  How do you know when you’re consciously connected and when you’re not?  Your emotions are your guide.  When you feel fear, doubt, worry, lack, scarcity, or even hate, you’re disconnected.  When you feel love, joy and  happiness, you’re connected.   The ebb and flow of that feeling of connection is part of our journey and evolution.  So how do you maintain this connection consciously and at increasingly deeper levels?

You find this connection by finding things that make you happy.  Some things that help me feel and maintain my connection are:

  • Looking deep into the eyes of my cat.
  • Going for a walk outside.
  • Spending time with a good friend.
  • Listening to a piece of wonderful music.
  • Reflecting on the blessings in my life.
  • Watching a beautiful sunset.
  • Curling up with my cat and a good book.
  • Watching my cat sleep.

Identify your moments of connection, and consciously guide yourself back into connection when you feel it slipping away.   Sometimes, even the memory of one of your “connection moments” can bring you back into alignment.

Animals are masters at maintaining their connection with Source.  They live in the moment – one of the best and easiest ways to stay connected.   As you can see from my own connection moments list, Amber plays a big part in helping me experience my connection with Source.  Let your pets help you find your connection.  It’s impossible to feel disconnected when you pet, play with or simply watch your pets.

Do you feel connected?

Amber feels connected

Go on a news diet

The single most effective step you can take towards better mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health is to stop watching the news.    You are discerning about what you put into your body – why not use that same judgment about what you allow to enter into your mind?  All the bad news and stories of gloom and doom are not an accurate reflection of what goes on in the world.  Despite the distorted view we’re being offered by the media, there are far more good things happening in the world every day than bad things.    Why do you allow yourself to be bombarded with a constant barrage of negativity when you have the choice to push the off button?   Negative emotions such as stress, worry, fear and depression are vibrations that affect what you attract into your life.  If all you’re seeing and hearing is negative, don’t be surprised if that’s what you see reflected in your daily life, and in the status of your health.

Try it for one day.  Don’t watch any news, don’t read a paper, don’t listen to  news radio, don’t scour the internet for news stories.  You will be surprised how much better and lighter you will feel.

Your pets will thank you, too.  Animals are sensitive to the vibrations around them and pick up on your stress and negativity.  For more infomation on how your stress affects your pets, click here

pillowAmber doesn’t watch the news.

Pretty Litter

Siegfried and Roy’s final performance

I just watched Friday night’s 20/20 special about Siegfried and Roy’s final performance, and it touched me deeply.  I have always been in awe of the connection Roy shared with animals all his life, and his words “don’t shoot the tiger” after he was so gravely injured five years ago to me were the ultimate testament to his love for these beautiful animals.

I was fortunate to meet Siegfried and Roy at a book signing in 1992.  They brought one of the big tigers and a litter of five tiger cubs to the bookstore with them.  I got to pet one of the cubs.   They were very gracious to every single person in the long line  waiting to get their books signed, and they signed my book “To Ingrid.  Love, Siegfried and Roy”.  What I remember most about that day, though, was the incongruent sight of this huge, magnificent white tiger in the middle of a bookstore.

In 1993, I got to see their show at the Mirage in Las Vegas from front row seats.  It was truly a magical experience. 

Siegfried and Roy have always been about magic, about mastering the impossible, about dreaming big and and making those big dreams come true.  This final performance was a triumph of their determination and the fierce belief that Roy would not only survive, but recover from his injuries.  They are living proof that thoughts fueled by belief create reality.

 We never stop seeing, perhaps this is why we dream. 

 siegfried-and-roy Siegfried and Roy

Spring cleaning

We’re getting a taste of spring here today – sunny and feels like it’s in the mid-70s if not warmer!  All the windows are open and Amber is enjoying the spring breeze wafting in through the screens.

I spent some time outside cleaning up the deck, and while I was at it, I cleaned the house.   I no longer use cleaning products that contain chemical ingredients.  I don’t care to have those ingredients around for my own health, but I especially don’t want them around for Amber.  Many ingredients in household cleaners contain hazardous ingredients that are toxic to pets.  Cats are especially susceptible because of the way they lick themselves when they’re grooming.  In the process, they ingest anything that has come in contact with their fur or paws.

Amber hates it when I clean the house.  She hides in the downstairs bathroom when I run the vacuum cleaner, aka “The Monster”.


Pain in the neck

I’ve been dealing with some neck pain lately – just some muscle tightness, and I’m well on my way to recovery with the help of some soft tissue work and chiropractic adjustments, but it’s, well, a pain in the neck.  Something that really helps is lying on the floor with a rolled up towel supporting my neck for 5-10 minutes a couple of times a day.  It helps re-educate the muscles to what proper alignment is.

I keep the rolled up towel under my coffee table to remind me to do this.

neck-support Amber demonstrates proper neck support

The value of a mentor

I’m currently working with a life coach.  This afternoon, I met with her for an hour and a half.  I always come away from these sessions energized and excited about the possibilities life holds for me.   Webster’s defines a mentor as a “trusted counselor or guide”, and that’s exactly how I view my coach.  She helps me see things more clearly, stretch beyond my limits and visualize my ideal life.   She doesn’t let me get away with being less than true to my authentic self.

Amber says she’s been trying to tell me this all along.  Cats are always true to themselves.


Telling your story

Everywhere I go, people are complaining about the economy.  People are worried about their future.  They see their investments plummeting and they’re not sure when this free fall is going to end.  Reality, they say, is scary right now. 

I’m not immune to these fears.  It’s hard to insulate yourself when gloom and doom seems to be the order of the day, especially if you listen to the media.  (CNN stands for Continously Negative News, so don’t watch it and other news outlets and expect to feel better.) 

We can’t control the market, we can’t control the economy, and we can’t control the news media.  We do, however, have control over our thoughts, and by extension, what we talk about and how we frame our conversations.  Thoughts are energy.  Negative thoughts are negative energy.  Putting out negative energy attracts more negative energy.  So why not harness the power of our thoughts to our benefit?

Instead of telling the story the way we see it (the reality of it), why not tell the story the way we want it to be.  Instead of worrying about what might happen, why not focus on what we want to have happen?  Tell your story the way you want it to be.  You can’t keep telling the same story and expect different results. 

You can use this technique in conversations where the other person is focused on fear and bad news and concerned about her investments.  Instead of getting sucked into the other person’s negative story, acknowledge what they said, and then turn it around.  “Sure, ” you could say.  “Things seem to be pretty bad right now.  But this is just a cycle.  Think about how well we’re all going to be doing once this cycle turns.  Once the market recovers, we ‘ll all be rich!”  You might be accused of being a Pollyanna, but there are worse things in life than being accused of being optimistic and happy go lucky! 

As much as I can, I’m going to tell my story the way I want it to be.