When I announced Ruby’s passing in December, I promised you that I would eventually write about my experience during the last four months of her life, from diagnosis to caring for her through her illness, to having to let her go.
I decided to title this four-part series “Ruby’s Last Journey.” My own journey through grief, which is, of course, a large part of all of this, is ongoing. I suspect I will inhabit planet grief for quite some time as I try to move forward without my little girl. Life goes on, but the pain of missing her hasn’t really softened all that much over the last two months.
Writing this series was hard. In the past, writing about losses helped me heal. That doesn’t seem to be the case this time. I know in time, I’ll come to terms with this loss, like I have with all my other losses. The reality is that we never get “over” a loss, nor should we want to. Loss changes us. The best we can hope for is that in the end, it changes us for the better. Continue Reading
As I’m mourning my beautiful little girl, the memories keep flooding in. It’s still bittersweet to remember her, and I miss her terribly every day. But “talking” about her helps, and I thought you might enjoy taking a few trips down memory lane with me. “Remembering Ruby” won’t be a regular series, but I will share memories as I feel moved to do so.Continue Reading
Hi everyone, it’s Ruby! I want to thank all of you for all the lovely wishes, healing thoughts and prayers that you have been sending me since Mom told you that I have advanced kidney disease. It makes me feel so good to know that so many people care about me, and I know it also means a lot to Mom.Continue Reading
Hi everyone, it’s Ruby! I want to thank all of you for all the lovely wishes, healing thoughts and prayers that you have been sending since Mom told you that I have kidney disease. It makes me feel very special to know that so many people care about me.Continue Reading
Like most cats, Allegra and Ruby love their sun puddles. My two little sun worshippers know exactly where in our house the first sun puddle of the day appears, and they tend to follow the sun throughout the day.Continue Reading
Hi everyone, it’s Ruby! Guess what! There’s not going to be a Mews and Nips today, because something much more important is happening today: it’s my birthday! I’m nine years old today! Mom still calls me her kitten, but I think she better start treating me like the mature cat I’ve become. I’m all grown up!Continue Reading
Hi everyone, it’s Ruby! I want to tell you about something really cool that happened the other day: I helped Mom install a new cable box! In case you don’t know what that is, it’s a really hard cat bed. I usually prefer sleeping in soft cat beds, and we certainly have plenty of them around the house. But this cat bed is so nice and warm, I like to sleep on it even though it’s kind of extra firm.Continue Reading
Like most cats, Allegra and Ruby love their sun puddles. My two little sun worshippers know exactly where in our house the first sun puddle of the day appears, and they tend to follow the sun throughout the day.
Favorite sun puddles change a bit with the seasons as the angle of the sun changes. One of Ruby’s favorites right now is the love seat in our living room.Continue Reading