Have you ever had to make a really big decision and found yourself paralyzed by fear? Maybe you were trying to decide whether to leave your job. Maybe a relationship had gone sour and you were thinking about leaving. Maybe you were trying to decide about moving to a new city. But you found yourself unable to make a decision. Why do we get stuck when it comes to making big decisions, and how can we overcome this?
One of the main reasons why we often find it hard to make decisions is that we think of the outcome being right or wrong. Contrary to the funny picture at the top of this post, there really are no wrong decisions (although the kitten in the photo might disagree!), there are only different choices. Once you truly believe that, it becomes easier to make decisions. Additionally, very few decisions are irreversible. We always have the power to make a different choice.
Another reason why making a decision can be difficult is fear. Fear of the outcome, fear of how a “wrong” decision may impact our lives and the lives of those around us, fear of taking some risks. A fear-based decision is never a good decision. Fear limits. If we live in fear, we will never be able to realize our full potential. Fear is never truth. If you feel fear, remember to connect with your spiritual core and remind yourself that there is no room for fear when you are connected to your true self.
So how do we go about making decisions without getting caught up in worry, fear and limitations? One of the best pieces of advice I got from one of my mentors was to make decisions from the place I want to be, not from the place I’m in. This means that if I’m thinking and dreaming big, I need to be ready to make decisions that support that kind of thinking. I can’t decide from a place of fear and scarcity if I want to live a big life that fully reflects who I really am.
Amber doesn’t understand why humans have such a difficult time making decisions. She says all decisions are ultimately only about two things: does it feel good? Or does it feel bad? Make the decision that feels good, and it will always serve you.
Gratitude is a wonderful way to raise your vibration and shift your energy to a better feeling place. The vibration of gratitude is a powerful force. It can shift your mood and your thoughts from a place of scarcity to a place of abundance. Research by Dr. Robert Emmons of the University of California at Davis into the psychology of gratitude has shown that people who practice gratitude are 25% happier. They are more optimistic about the future and feel better about their lives.
Practicing gratitude is also a great way to start and end each day. Think about five things you’re grateful for before you get out of bed each morning, and again before you go to sleep each night. This practice will shift your vibration. Do this for a few days and you will notice how the shift in your energy will transform your life.
My five for today are:
1. Amber’s gentle, loving and peaceful presence in my life.
2. Doing work I love, getting paid for it, and being in charge of my time.
About a month ago, I talked about how making a conscious decision to get happy can really make a difference in how we feel and how we approach our life. But some days, our mood and energetic vibration just seem to be such that even getting to the place where we can make that decision can be a bit of a stretch.
For those days, it helps to have a ready list of thoughts, images and actions that can help to shift your mood and vibration almost instantly. You can’t think of something beautiful or someone you really love and not feel better. Picture a place where you’ve always felt good in the past, and just thinking about that place will change your mood. Put on a beautiful piece of music and your vibration will change.
Here are some of my “vibration shifters:”
Watching Amber sleep in her sunny spot.
Listening to music – depending on what mood I’m trying to change, it can be anything from symphonic power metal to Jimmy Buffett.
Imagining myself walking along the beach at sunrise.
Reading a favorite passage in a favorite book.
Ice cream – preferably Ben and Jerry’s chocolate chip cookie dough or Cherry Garcia.
Just writing these down shifted my energy into a better feeling place. What are your mood shifters?
I blogged about never giving up on your dream back in April, when Susan Boyle first burst onto the scene. Yesterday, she sang “Memories” on “Britain’s Got Talent”, and she is now favored to win in the contest’s final next Sunday. Here’s the clip from her performance:
As someone who’s moved one step closer to making my own life-long dream of writing and publishing a book come true yesterday, when I submitted the manuscript for “Buckley’s Story – Lessons from a Feline Master Teacher” to my publisher, this idea of never giving up on your dream definitely resonates with me. While the only thing Susan and I have in common is the fact that we both have a cat, there’s still something about her journey and her performance that is captivating to me. I know I’ll be cheering for her to win this contest – and hope that she continues to inspire others to follow their dreams.
There is something that Buckley and Susan Boyle have in common. Buckley also never gave up on her dream. I can’t wait to share her story with you when the book comes out.