Sunday Cat Love and Above: You Already Know How to Love

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Guest post by Siena Lee-Tajiri

Clients often ask me, “why is self love so hard?” and my response is always something like, “I know, right?!” Loving ourselves is a big part of our spiritual journey and as a journey, we’ll never get there and be done with it. But we can absolutely get better at it in leaps and bounds!…I promise you. For right now, just take in the fact that you already know how to love. Really take it in, say it out loud, let all the cells in your body hear it: “I already know how to love.”

And this, my fellow feline-loving friends, is more than half the battle.

Being that you are a cat guardian and an avid reader of The Conscious Cat, I know this is absolutely true, despite the fact that you might not have had the ideal childhood or, like me, you might have suffered from trauma in your early formative years. So many of us that have not had secure role models of love growing up crave connection with humans, but find ourselves unable to find it, or we keep most at arms length with a guard up, then joke (sort of) that we love animals more than people.

And yet even without secure role models, we’re all still here and we’re okay. We’ve managed to learn how to love and even cultivate a love as close to unconditional as maybe we’ll ever get! How? Our cats. Cats are incredibly powerful and healing! We all remember and have stories about our first beloved cat, and I imagine all of our stories are the same: meet cat, guard down, heart open (although we might’ve tried to keep it shut), full love flooding forth!

Every part of my being remembers the day my heart burst open for the love of cats. This was a time before TNR, before we knew dry food and fish weren’t ideal staples for our cats. This was when I was only 4.

Standing on the stool in my great-grandmother’s house, I’d watch my aunt pour Purina Cat Chow from a big bag into a giant stainless steel bowl. Next came one can of Figaro Cat Tuna and just a quick sprinkling of warm water. As my aunt carefully mixed the little x’s to coat each one with tuna, she said, “And don’t forget the most important ingredient…love! Don’t forget the love!” …as she continued mixing with her bare hands. 

My job was to get the trays ready. My aunt put equal portions of the cat food mix on each one. I could only hold two trays, trying to keep them steady and being sure not to trip as I made my way to the back door. I crouched and placed my two trays down, my aunt placed her four, and then went back into the house to get more. 

And then came my favorite part…I hunkered down, smiling ear to ear, in my yellow and white checkered summer dress. Amidst a sea of cats eating their dinner, I stayed quiet, trying to keep my joy inside to not scare them.  

This was love.

Siena with her aunt and Sam and Puni

That was the day my heart cracked open. By age 4 I had already learned to protect my heart but as the years went on, I’d meet cats that would crack my heart wide open again and again:   harden heart, meet cat, heart open…repeat. And I’m so grateful for this! In order to love, you need to keep your heart open, and our cats do this for us every single day. They help us keep an open heart so that we can continue to love in all ways, whether it’s loving ourselves or loving each other.

Next month I’ll be sharing practical tools to turn this cat love towards ourselves to help us cultivate greater self-love and self-care. But for now, continue taking this in: you already know how to love.  Any time you doubt this, take a look at how you love your cat. By really integrating this knowing, you’ll start awakening parts of you and creating more space, a container, for self-love.

Please know that I appreciate you and I’m already looking forward to our next visit!

With Love and Above,
Siena

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17 Comments on Sunday Cat Love and Above: You Already Know How to Love

  1. Nancy
    April 25, 2021 at 5:24 pm (2 months ago)

    There is nothing more wonderful to me then being loved by my cats!!!

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    • Siena Lee Tajiri
      April 25, 2021 at 5:43 pm (2 months ago)

      Hi Nancy! Oh, it’s such a wonderful thing and what a special love! Give Renford, Charley, Almond Joy and the your other girls some love for me!

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      • Nancy
        April 26, 2021 at 2:03 am (2 months ago)

        Hi Siena-Yes it sure is and I will give all my cats your love. i read your comment about lasagna and Garfield and he was my favorite too. In fact years ago I cut all the Garfield comic strips out of the paper and made 2 scrap books and I still have them. i also love lasagna!!

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        • Siena Lee Tajiri
          April 26, 2021 at 11:12 am (2 months ago)

          Ha ha! I love it, Nancy! We have so much in common…first cats…now LASAGNA! LOL! Have a wonderful week!

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  2. wendy mourning
    April 25, 2021 at 4:22 pm (2 months ago)

    i am getting your emails twice. please help, thanks, wendy mourning
    endymourning@gmail.com

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    • Ingrid
      April 26, 2021 at 3:54 am (2 months ago)

      I only show one email going to you each day, Wendy, so I think the problem may be on Gmail’s end. Try unsubscribing and resubscribing to see if that fixes the problem.

      Reply
  3. Eleanor Skibo
    April 25, 2021 at 12:16 pm (2 months ago)

    Cats are bundles of love, love and more love. I’ve shared my life with many different types of animals, and even the human ones, and there’s no other animal that sense what you feel. If you give them love, they give you bushels of love right back for ever and ever.

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    • Siena Lee Tajiri
      April 25, 2021 at 5:41 pm (2 months ago)

      Hi Eleanor! Yes, I agree about how intuitive and empathic cats are. Aren’t they amazing? Plus as you mention, they are bundles and bundles of love and give bushels in return! They also hold great boundaries, but that’ll be for another blog post! Thanks for sharing!

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      • Eleanor Skibo
        April 25, 2021 at 10:15 pm (2 months ago)

        Hi Siena, thank you very much for the kind words in agreement with what I’ve found to be true. I’m sure you’re a very special person, lady, and an unique type of person to give all of our feline friends the returned love they so deserve. Good luck with your new endeavor, I’m sure you’ll be overwhelming just as much as Ingrid is.

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        • Siena Lee Tajiri
          April 26, 2021 at 11:11 am (2 months ago)

          Thank you so much for the well wishes, Eleanor! It means so much to me, especially coming from a fellow cat lover who understands this kind of love!

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  4. M -
    April 25, 2021 at 11:10 am (2 months ago)

    Can so relate to this. I tell people I came out of the womb loving cats. I cannot remember a time when I did NOT love cats. All my favorite movies as a kid starred cats.

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    • Siena Lee Tajiri
      April 25, 2021 at 5:36 pm (2 months ago)

      I love this so much!!! As a kid, I used to love Garfield. Remember how Garfield loved lasagna? After I learned that, lasagna became my favorite food. Ha ha!

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  5. Theresa Anspaugh
    April 25, 2021 at 6:56 am (2 months ago)

    There’s nothing like a pet who gives unconditional love!

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    • Siena Lee Tajiri
      April 25, 2021 at 5:33 pm (2 months ago)

      Hi Theresa! Ah, so true! Unconditional love indeed. I’m so grateful for our beloved Soul Pets! They truly bring so much healing.

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  6. Janine
    April 25, 2021 at 6:39 am (2 months ago)

    You sound a lot like me. I turned to cats growing up (and still do) for the love I didn’t get from anyone else. Cats are the only ones I feel safe around.

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    • Siena Lee Tajiri
      April 25, 2021 at 5:31 pm (2 months ago)

      Hi Janine! I, too, still love how safe I feel around cats! I appreciate how much you understand where I’m coming from too. Thank you!

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      • Janine
        April 26, 2021 at 5:58 am (2 months ago)

        You’re welcome!

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