Remembering Ruby: Ruby’s First Christmas Tree


As the anniversary of Ruby’s passing gets closer, I find that my grief is intensifying again. First anniversaries are always difficult,a and combined with a holiday season that is anything but normal, this is a challenging time for me. Thankfully, memories of some of the silly things my little girl did bring smiles through the tears.

The other day I came across a post from November of 2011, when Ruby got to see her first Christmas tree.

“All of a sudden, little white lights came on all over the tree! It was like magic! Sparkly! And then Mom started hanging what looked like lots of little cat toys on the tree. How thoughtful of her!”

Read Ruby’s Reflections: Putting Up the Christmas Tree for the full story.

15 Comments on Remembering Ruby: Ruby’s First Christmas Tree

  1. Sandy Weinstein
    December 10, 2020 at 12:38 pm (8 months ago)

    wow, i know this is so hard. I was thinking about my oldest dog that passed away 4 yrs ago and started crying, hugging on my 2 gals. i still talk to her hoping she will hear me in heaven, telling her one day we will see each other again. It is so nice that you have kept sharing posts of your wonderful memories. thank you for sharing.

  2. Angel Ms. Phoebe’s Family
    December 10, 2020 at 2:43 am (8 months ago)

    She was a beautiful girl, gone too soon like my Clove. I lost my two torties around this time of year, three years apart, they never leave you nor do memories. I will always love and think of my kids until I see them again.

  3. Nancy D
    December 9, 2020 at 6:43 pm (8 months ago)

    I feel you grief I lost my Angie in January this year don’t take much for the tears to
    Come I try hard to remember good things , it takes time. You and Allegra, remember she is grieving also , just hug together an know I am thinking and praying for you both. Merry Christmas from Nancy and Amira

  4. Theresa Anspaugh
    December 9, 2020 at 6:03 pm (8 months ago)

    Hugs to you Ingrid. I lost my Romeo 5 years ago around this time also. It still tugs at my heart. I cried for 6 months when in the shower for his loss. Keep hold of the beautiful memories as we know they are in Kitty Heaven and will see them again when we cross the Rainbow Bridge.

  5. M -
    December 9, 2020 at 5:15 pm (8 months ago)

    I too am coming up on a one-year anniversary: 12.10.2020. It will be one year since my beloved Diego passed. Even though I have his ashes with me and a new kitty in my life, I still have days when I miss him deeply.

    He and I shared a birthday. We were both Aries. He and I were as much soul-mates as one could get.

    I am busy writing my first “remembrance” Post for him. It’s happening in fits and starts, as my eyes keep welling-up with tears,

    – and I just completed Chapter 5 of Ortoloni’s story. It’s been 9 years since HE passed (December 4, 2011). December’s a tough month for me.

    Once I’m finished writing “The Love of a Cat Named Ortoloni” I will turn my attention to Diego’s tale.

  6. Summer
    December 9, 2020 at 4:29 pm (8 months ago)

    Aww, that is a sweet memory. Lots of purrs to you. Holidays can be tough. Especially this year, for multiple reasons.

  7. Steph
    December 9, 2020 at 2:38 pm (8 months ago)

    My heart goes out to you Ingrid. We love our babies with everything we’ve got. That will always be Ruby’s beautiful story. Take care Ingrid.

  8. Nancy
    December 9, 2020 at 1:59 pm (8 months ago)

    Thank you so much for sharing Ruby’s thoughts about her first Christmas tree Ingrid. What wonderful memories for you! I know only too well how holidays can be very difficult, especially the first anniversary. My thoughts and prayers are with both you and Allegra!

  9. Timmy Tomcat
    December 9, 2020 at 1:41 pm (8 months ago)

    They are always hard but do get a little easier with time when we think more of the fond memories than the hurt of loss. Of course our dear Angels are always right there in our hearts. Our Inky left us in Jan 2017 and Budd in Feb this year so we have those coming up too

  10. Caren Gittleman
    December 9, 2020 at 12:49 pm (8 months ago)

    Ingrid my heart goes out to you, this was a lovely memory…you KNOW I KNOW how difficult this is. Sending you huge virtual hugs and much love always!

  11. Connie Fischer
    December 9, 2020 at 11:38 am (8 months ago)

    The look on Ruby’s face in this picture makes me smile. You can see the anticipation on her face because she knows that fun is coming. What a blessing she was.

    • Steph
      December 9, 2020 at 1:27 pm (8 months ago)

      My heart goes out to you Ingrid. We love our babies with everything we’ve got. That will always be Ruby’s beautiful story. Take care Ingrid.

  12. Janine
    December 9, 2020 at 7:41 am (8 months ago)

    Oh sweet Ruby…. This is a good memory.

  13. Nancy faulkner
    December 9, 2020 at 7:30 am (8 months ago)

    Ruby’s First Christmas was a beautiful story. I understand, First Anniversary passing are very hard. My thoughts to you and Allegra.

    Grayson, Milo, Hamish and Nancy

  14. Abby F.
    December 9, 2020 at 5:43 am (8 months ago)

    Thank you for sharing your memories of Ruby’s first Christmas tree. My tabby boy, Sammy, passed in Sept. 2018. I met him when he was 5 hours old and took him home when he was 2 month along. There was never a (mini) Christmas tree or ornament that Sammy didn’t inspect/knock to the floor. It never got old. My sweet Winston (along with sister Dawn) is equally up to the task of knocking any and all untethered items to the floor. This will be his first holiday with us, and joy to the World!


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