Mews and Nips: Between the Years


The week between the years has always been my favorite week of the year. The pace of life seems to slow down just a little bit, most people still retain some of the magic of Christmas, and it’s a perfect time for reflection.

This year, I’m having a hard time finding the kind of peace I usually experience this time of the year as I’m struggling to cope with losing Ruby. For that reason, today’s Mews and Nips edition is an abbreviated version.

I encourage you to take some time for reflection before the year is over. As cats are so good at reminding us, not just during this week, but every day of the year, it’s not all about doing. Sometimes, it’s enough to just be.

If you missed any of the stories featured on the Conscious Cat this week, here’s a recap: on Monday, I announced my picks for the 10 best products of the year, on Tuesday, I shared a feline version of the famous poem The Night Before Christmas, on Wednesday, we celebrated Christmas, on Thursday, I revealed my choice for product of the year, and on Friday, I shared my list of the five best cat books of the year.

Have a great weekend!

17 Comments on Mews and Nips: Between the Years

  1. Barbara Zittrer
    January 6, 2020 at 1:09 am (3 months ago)

    Oh Ingrid, it looks like many of us has losses in 2019, but seeing that you lost your precious Ruby did bring tears to my eyes. I lost the first cat I brought in after moving to this old farmhouse almost 20 years ago in September. Sweet Babydoll was barely in the grave when someone dumped a box of kittens on my porch. Then less than a month later also lost Rusty, another old timer here.
    To top it all off, I fell and injured myself pretty badly and am still recuperating. Poor cats had to see me taken out in a stretcher twice in a week.
    And I feel terrible that I missed your sad news. I will grieve for your loss and mine. You are surely not alone.

  2. Timmy Tomcat
    December 29, 2019 at 2:36 pm (3 months ago)

    Take care of yourself and look for Ruby in the quiet of the night as she is there in your heart always

  3. Eleanor Skibo
    December 28, 2019 at 10:57 pm (3 months ago)

    The words of this year’s reflection are just so heartfelt yet so wise. Sometimes it takes losing something or especially someone to make us taste the true bitterness and the true joy that love has to offer us. Take care, my friend, Ingrid, and allow your emotions to flow out upon your pillow and to Allegra, who’s a cat with far more understanding than us humans can imagine.

  4. lucy
    December 28, 2019 at 10:36 pm (3 months ago)

    Ingrid. i feel your pain. Ruby is gone in buddy but she is with you in Love and spirit and she always will be .she is in your lap, playing with Allegra, and watching over you. be good to your self…we love you

    • RACHEL
      December 29, 2019 at 12:35 am (3 months ago)

      We lost our beloved tortie Willow this year. She may be with Ruby and the other precious ones lost this year, trying to win them over to the dark side. Wishing you a peaceful end to the old year and hope for the new.

  5. Kani
    December 28, 2019 at 1:25 pm (3 months ago)

    I lost my dear sweet Tigre on December 13 this year. He fought hard and was 15 years old. The last two weeks were so sweet with him and we have lots of memories in 15 years. I know how you are missing your Ruby because I to am suffering with dealing with my loss. There will never be another Tigre just as there will never be another Ruby. My Tigre also had kidney disease for the last 2 years and at the end developed Feline Immune Deficiency Disease. Here’s to our memories!

  6. Steph
    December 28, 2019 at 12:58 pm (3 months ago)

    Thank you for your wisdom & love for all things Cat. May you & Allegra find peace in this time of reflection. May the love you shared with precious Ruby fill your home today & always.

  7. Sue Brandes
    December 28, 2019 at 12:21 pm (3 months ago)

    Hugs to you. I am missing my Charlie this Christmas. He loved Christmas time.

  8. Mattie
    December 28, 2019 at 11:55 am (3 months ago)

    Dearest Ingrid,
    So sorry to hear about your loss.
    Yes, this is a special time, the week between the years, I’ve never quite thought of it in that way before…
    Hoping your broken heart feels better as the time passes, and you rejoice in the fact in knowing you are very special yourself, as a broken heart is a larger vessel which can then hold more, and my hope for you is for overflowing joy and a bit of Merriment too, yes? We people with large hearts need to stick together and share our gifts, such as you each time you share your stories us we share our warm feelings and kind thoughts across these lines in black and white. Sending you a soft breeze of warmth over this chilly Winters Day looking forward to the future, with dreams of sugar plums and scarlet ribbons, fondly, Mattie

  9. David
    December 28, 2019 at 10:59 am (3 months ago)


    It’s photos like that of Ruby that make me think there is a God. He/she looks like you gave him/her a great life.

    Best wishes only,


  10. Debra
    December 28, 2019 at 10:58 am (3 months ago)

    Hello Ingrid– I hope your heart heals quickly. I feel badly for you. I have been there.

  11. Allison
    December 28, 2019 at 10:17 am (3 months ago)

    Hugs! I lost my Lucy cat in 2013 over the holidays. She was the love of my life. Part of me needed to do nothing and part of me needed to keep up my routine. Part of me needed to be alone and part of me needed people in my life. Whatever you need right now, take time for it. Ruby was a huge part of your life and everything will be different for a long time.

  12. Peggy Waters
    December 28, 2019 at 9:21 am (3 months ago)

    I am so sorry for your loss Ingrid. I have four babies up in heaven to keep Ruby company, but I know how hard it is to let go. I still haven’t let go, and I grieve every day. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Allegra.

  13. Janine
    December 28, 2019 at 8:11 am (3 months ago)

    Sending love and purrs your way.

  14. Sam Cee
    December 28, 2019 at 7:03 am (3 months ago)

    Hi Ingrid
    Sending you love xx
    Be kind to yourself
    Allow yourself time
    We are here with you

  15. Linda Hoyt
    December 28, 2019 at 1:17 am (3 months ago)

    My heart breaks for you and the loss of your precious Ruby. I have a tortie like Ruby and my husband and I are fiercely in love w/ her. We can’t imagine your pain. We are so very sorry.
    You are right though about this particularly unique week of the year. I agree with you that it is a time to relax from the pace of Christmas preparations, yet we still can review and reflect on the past year and its finer points.
    We will pray for your Ruby in Heaven and hope she is chasing little pink butterflies and enjoying the kitty company of those who went to Heaven before her.
    With Love

  16. Nancy
    December 28, 2019 at 1:14 am (3 months ago)

    I am amazed that you can post anything at all. Please take some time off to grieve!


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