However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun
it and call it hard names. – Henry David Thoreau
I frequently write about adopting a positive mindset in my Conscious Cat Sunday columns. I believe that it helps you cope more easily with whatever life throws at you. I think Einstein had it right when he said “the most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” Adopting a positive mindset is a conscious choice.
Complaining about your life is the antithesis of a positive mindset. If you’ve ever been around a constant complainer, you know how draining it is. Chronic complainers thrive on having a captive audience. They love dumping their negativity on others and bringing them down to their level. But what’s even worse than being around a complainer is speaking poorly of your own life.
When you speak poorly about your own life, don’t be surprised if your life becomes more of what you’re complaining about. Complaining about your life is damaging to the soul. It makes you bitter, fearful, and angry. It kills hope and creativity.
Unfortunately, complaining has become so socially acceptable that it’s almost impossible to have a conversation anymore without someone complaining about something. Whether you’re complaining about your health, the rising cost of everything, or the weather, someone will surely have a story that’s even worse than yours, and before you know it, you’re caught in a downward spiral of negative energy.
Make a conscious choice to short-circuit your own complaints about your life, and choose not to participate in negative conversations with others. Life will always throw stuff at you. Prices will always go up, the weather will not always be how you’d prefer it to be, and there will be conflict in the world. Rather than complaining about the things you can’t control, focus on the good things in your life. Speak positive words about your life. You may be surprised just how much your life will improve.
I bet cats don’t complain about their life. I can’t imagine a cat ever thinks “I’ll never get to nap in a sun puddle again” on a cloudy day. Instead, I’m pretty sure that she’s going to find an alternate cozy spot for a nap and settle down purring at just how good it is to take a nap in the middle of the day.
Do you often find yourself complaining about your life, or do you focus on the good in your life?