Surrender is faith that the power of love can accomplish anything…
even when you cannot foresee the outcome. – Deepak Chopra
I admit it: I’m a control freak. I like predictability, consistency, and routine. Maybe that’s one of the many reasons why I love cats so much. They tend to thrive on those things, too. I often waste time trying to control, plan and prevent things that I can’t possibly control, plan and prevent. My cats don’t do this. Despite the fact that they’re creatures of habit, they seem to be much better at going with the flow.
This was really brought home to me during our recent two-day power outage. While I was stressed about not having air conditioning, internet access and refrigerated or cooked food, Allegra and Ruby simply went about their usual business. They trusted that they would be fed, loved and cared for, whether the power was on or not.
Given that we live in a world that’s anything but predictable, wanting to be in control of the universe can be frustrating, not to mention futile. The desire to control is rooted in fear, and the only way to break this useless behavior pattern is to surrender.
The energy of surrender accomplishes much more than the energy of control. By surrendering, and allowing life to unfold instead of trying to control it, you’ll most likely find that things will go smoother, obstacles that previously seemed insurmountable may simply disappear, and you will feel more peaceful.
Surrender does not mean doing nothing. In fact, learning how to surrender can be hard work. It simply means taking action from a place of peace, rather than responding to stress.
The following tips can help you let go of control and surrender:
Become aware. Sometimes, it’s as simple as becoming aware that you’re trying to control the uncontrollable, and making a conscious choice to let go.
Breathe and take stock. Take a deep breath and step back from the situation. Ask yourself what would happen if you let go of control. Would it really be that terrible? Ask yourself why a certain situation or obstacle appeared in your path. What lesson can you learn from it? In the case of my recent power outage, I know there was a clear lesson in taking more time away from the computer. Would I have preferred to take that time in air conditioned comfort? Of course I would have. But the lesson still took, and I’m making adjustments to my schedule.
Leave room for change to occur naturally. When you give in to the energy of surrender, situations that seemed impossible may suddenly resolve.
Believe in a friendly universe. Albert Einstein once said “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” It helps to believe in a friendly universe that supports you rather than thwarts your efforts at every turn.
I’d love to be able to tell you that I reached that place of surrender during our recent power outage, but I’d be lying. In fact, I was getting pretty whiny by the time our power finally came back on almost 48 hours after we lost it. But I am working on not letting something that I can’t control, such as the weather or power companies, affect me in ways that are detrimental to my mental well-being.
And I have to look no further than to my two feline teachers, Allegra and Ruby: they’ve purr-fected the art of surrender.
Do you have trouble letting go of control?
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