Have you ever had to make a really big decision and found yourself paralyzed by fear? Maybe you were trying to decide whether to leave your job. Maybe a relationship had gone sour and you were thinking about leaving. Maybe you were trying to decide about moving to a new city. But you found yourself unable to make a decision. Why do we get stuck when it comes to making big decisions, and how can we overcome this?
One of the main reasons why we often find it hard to make decisions is that we think of the outcome being right or wrong. Contrary to the funny picture at the top of this post, there really are no wrong decisions (although the kitten in the photo might disagree!), there are only different choices. Once you truly believe that, it becomes easier to make decisions. Additionally, very few decisions are irreversible. We always have the power to make a different choice.
Another reason why making a decision can be difficult is fear. Fear of the outcome, fear of how a “wrong” decision may impact our lives and the lives of those around us, fear of taking some risks. A fear-based decision is never a good decision. Fear limits. If we live in fear, we will never be able to realize our full potential. Fear is never truth. If you feel fear, remember to connect with your spiritual core and remind yourself that there is no room for fear when you are connected to your true self.
So how do we go about making decisions without getting caught up in worry, fear and limitations? One of the best pieces of advice I got from one of my mentors was to make decisions from the place I want to be, not from the place I’m in. This means that if I’m thinking and dreaming big, I need to be ready to make decisions that support that kind of thinking. I can’t decide from a place of fear and scarcity if I want to live a big life that fully reflects who I really am.
Amber doesn’t understand why humans have such a difficult time making decisions. She says all decisions are ultimately only about two things: does it feel good? Or does it feel bad? Make the decision that feels good, and it will always serve you.