Everywhere I go, people are complaining about the economy. People are worried about their future. They see their investments plummeting and they’re not sure when this free fall is going to end. Reality, they say, is scary right now.
I’m not immune to these fears. It’s hard to insulate yourself when gloom and doom seems to be the order of the day, especially if you listen to the media. (CNN stands for Continously Negative News, so don’t watch it and other news outlets and expect to feel better.)
We can’t control the market, we can’t control the economy, and we can’t control the news media. We do, however, have control over our thoughts, and by extension, what we talk about and how we frame our conversations. Thoughts are energy. Negative thoughts are negative energy. Putting out negative energy attracts more negative energy. So why not harness the power of our thoughts to our benefit?
Instead of telling the story the way we see it (the reality of it), why not tell the story the way we want it to be. Instead of worrying about what might happen, why not focus on what we want to have happen? Tell your story the way you want it to be. You can’t keep telling the same story and expect different results.
You can use this technique in conversations where the other person is focused on fear and bad news and concerned about her investments. Instead of getting sucked into the other person’s negative story, acknowledge what they said, and then turn it around. “Sure, ” you could say. “Things seem to be pretty bad right now. But this is just a cycle. Think about how well we’re all going to be doing once this cycle turns. Once the market recovers, we ‘ll all be rich!” You might be accused of being a Pollyanna, but there are worse things in life than being accused of being optimistic and happy go lucky!
As much as I can, I’m going to tell my story the way I want it to be.