Comments on: How to Cope With Losing a Pet http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 12:23:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-5373 Ingrid Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:06:06 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-5373 I'm so sorry for your loss, Patrick. I think those sudden, unexpected losses are the worst - it's such a shock, from one moment to the next, your life has changed irrevocably. Even though noone can feel what you're feeling - your relationship with Misty was special - there are people who do understand what you're going through. When we take these wonderful animals into our lives, we unfortunately open ourselves to the pain of eventually losing them. I hope that in time, your pain of missing Misty will be replaced with memories of your time together. I have some additional articles on my other site that may help you cope with your loss: http://ingridking.com/category/pet-loss/ I've also found Christine Davis' Pet Loss Comfort site helpful: http://www.lightheartedpress.com/pet-loss/pet-loss-support.html I’m so sorry for your loss, Patrick. I think those sudden, unexpected losses are the worst – it’s such a shock, from one moment to the next, your life has changed irrevocably. Even though noone can feel what you’re feeling – your relationship with Misty was special – there are people who do understand what you’re going through. When we take these wonderful animals into our lives, we unfortunately open ourselves to the pain of eventually losing them.

I hope that in time, your pain of missing Misty will be replaced with memories of your time together.

I have some additional articles on my other site that may help you cope with your loss:
http://ingridking.com/category/pet-loss/

I’ve also found Christine Davis’ Pet Loss Comfort site helpful:
http://www.lightheartedpress.com/pet-loss/pet-loss-support.html

]]> By: Patrick http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-5371 Patrick Tue, 09 Feb 2010 08:39:52 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-5371 My 12 year old cat Misty died a little over a month ago. I still feel the hole in my heart over the loss of my little boy. Guilt remains. He died suddenly, I heard him moan from the next room, a sound I never heard before in my life, I didn't even realize it came from him right away, the sound was unrecognizable. when I got to him he passed. Lifeless on the floor. I really expected him to live til 20, I took him for granted, he seemed healthy. I haven't been dealing with this to well. It was me and him against the world, no matter how rotten people were to you in your life, there was always Misty and I together at the end of the day. Now it's an empty home. I never expected the pain to be this powerful at losing him. I don't want another cat, I want my cat back. It feels better to post this with fellow pet owners. TY for reading. My 12 year old cat Misty died a little over a month ago. I still feel the hole in my heart over the loss of my little boy. Guilt remains. He died suddenly, I heard him moan from the next room, a sound I never heard before in my life, I didn’t even realize it came from him right away, the sound was unrecognizable. when I got to him he passed. Lifeless on the floor.
I really expected him to live til 20, I took him for granted, he seemed healthy. I haven’t been dealing with this to well.
It was me and him against the world, no matter how rotten people were to you in your life, there was always Misty and I together at the end of the day. Now it’s an empty home. I never expected the pain to be this powerful at losing him.
I don’t want another cat, I want my cat back.
It feels better to post this with fellow pet owners. TY for reading.

]]> By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-5165 Ingrid Mon, 01 Feb 2010 11:57:03 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-5165 I am so sorry for your loss, Dannielle. The shock of the unexpected and sudden nature of your loss makes this devastating. My heart goes out to you and your partner. Jonsey sounds like she was a delightful, loving, happy cat - and to have her torn from your lives in this way must feel like your heart was ripped out. I wish there were words that can take this pain away. Please know that you're in my thoughts. Be gentle with yourself during this difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss, Dannielle. The shock of the unexpected and sudden nature of your loss makes this devastating. My heart goes out to you and your partner. Jonsey sounds like she was a delightful, loving, happy cat – and to have her torn from your lives in this way must feel like your heart was ripped out. I wish there were words that can take this pain away. Please know that you’re in my thoughts. Be gentle with yourself during this difficult time.

]]> By: Dannielle http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-5164 Dannielle Mon, 01 Feb 2010 09:35:47 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-5164 We lost our little 9 month old cat( Jonsey) yesterday 31/02/10 to a reaction to the annastetic.We wanted to have her spayed/nutere.I just assumed everything would be ok ,we would take her home give here plenty of love and she would recover from her operation I didnt know about this reaction that animals could have to the annastetic .I didnt know this could happen.Jonsey was such an individual very loving and never meowed loved to purrrr.loved attention.My partner will be at home this afternoon reading his paper lounging on the sofa and she wont be there to hop up on to his chest and crumpel up his paper wanting pets and her rub.Last night we sat down and had a cry together.We just did not see this coming. We lost our little 9 month old cat( Jonsey) yesterday 31/02/10 to a reaction to the annastetic.We wanted to have her spayed/nutere.I just assumed everything would be ok ,we would take her home give here plenty of love and she would recover from her operation I didnt know about this reaction that animals could have to the annastetic .I didnt know this could happen.Jonsey was such an individual very loving and never meowed loved to purrrr.loved attention.My partner will be at home this afternoon reading his paper lounging on the sofa and she wont be there to hop up on to his chest and crumpel
up his paper wanting pets and her rub.Last night we sat down and had a cry together.We just did not see this coming.

]]> By: karen http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-2201 karen Sat, 26 Sep 2009 19:00:35 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-2201 Hi Ingrid, thank you for this thoughtful and well-written article. Hi Ingrid, thank you for this thoughtful and well-written article.

]]> By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-944 Ingrid Mon, 10 Aug 2009 17:57:41 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-944 I'm so sorry about Miss Girl, Tammy. Even knowing that she wouldn't be able to make the trip and transition, it still must have been so painful to make this decision for her. At the same time, I'm sure knowing that she's buried near other animals of yours must bring some comfort. I'm glad you and your husband can share memories of Miss Girl as you settle into your new house. Even though her physical energy wasn't part of the new house, she will become a part of it by living on in your hearts. I’m so sorry about Miss Girl, Tammy. Even knowing that she wouldn’t be able to make the trip and transition, it still must have been so painful to make this decision for her. At the same time, I’m sure knowing that she’s buried near other animals of yours must bring some comfort. I’m glad you and your husband can share memories of Miss Girl as you settle into your new house. Even though her physical energy wasn’t part of the new house, she will become a part of it by living on in your hearts.

]]> By: Tammy http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-941 Tammy Mon, 10 Aug 2009 17:29:26 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-941 My husband and I had to euthanize our little Miss Girl just over two weeks ago. It was a heart-wrenching decision, but we know we did the right thing for her. We moved away from our home in Colorado only a few days after her passing, and the trip and transition would not have gone well for our little Girl. We buried her at a farm where I had lived for about 10 years. She is near other animals of mine, and my friends who still live there. On the same day of her euthanasia and burial, their dog, Emma died. (I actually found her. It was a very traumatic day.) Miss Girl and Emma were buried side by side. We miss her very much. It seems to help both my husband and I to talk about her quite a bit. Moving away from where we'd lived with her was actually well-timed. All of our memories in that house are gone as we transition to our new place without Miss G. Thanks for writing about this very difficult topic with such sensitivity and care! My husband and I had to euthanize our little Miss Girl just over two weeks ago. It was a heart-wrenching decision, but we know we did the right thing for her. We moved away from our home in Colorado only a few days after her passing, and the trip and transition would not have gone well for our little Girl.

We buried her at a farm where I had lived for about 10 years. She is near other animals of mine, and my friends who still live there. On the same day of her euthanasia and burial, their dog, Emma died. (I actually found her. It was a very traumatic day.) Miss Girl and Emma were buried side by side.

We miss her very much. It seems to help both my husband and I to talk about her quite a bit. Moving away from where we’d lived with her was actually well-timed. All of our memories in that house are gone as we transition to our new place without Miss G.

Thanks for writing about this very difficult topic with such sensitivity and care!

]]> By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-843 Ingrid Wed, 05 Aug 2009 23:18:45 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-843 I'm sorry about your losses, Debbi. It's comforting to know that our departed feline friends live on in our hearts, but it still hurts when we miss their physical presence. I’m sorry about your losses, Debbi. It’s comforting to know that our departed feline friends live on in our hearts, but it still hurts when we miss their physical presence.

]]> By: Debbi Docherty http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-842 Debbi Docherty Wed, 05 Aug 2009 23:12:18 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-842 Within the past 6 years, I've lost two and they were both, somewhat, unexpected. Both of my cats were very young when they died, one was expected and the other wasn't, so much and I didn't have the chance to say good bye to either. I still cry and grieve for them and I re-visit photo albums to remind me of how awesome they were. They both will leave a permanent imprint on my heart. Time does heal and you can't let other tell you how you should feel or respond to the loss. Those are people who haven't experienced it and won't understand. Find people who do. They are comforting. Thanks Ingrid! Within the past 6 years, I’ve lost two and they were both, somewhat, unexpected. Both of my cats were very young when they died, one was expected and the other wasn’t, so much and I didn’t have the chance to say good bye to either. I still cry and grieve for them and I re-visit photo albums to remind me of how awesome they were. They both will leave a permanent imprint on my heart. Time does heal and you can’t let other tell you how you should feel or respond to the loss. Those are people who haven’t experienced it and won’t understand. Find people who do. They are comforting. Thanks Ingrid!

]]> By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-840 Ingrid Wed, 05 Aug 2009 22:36:51 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-840 Thanks for your comment, Sara. I agree that Nadine's book is a wonderful resource as well. You can also read my interview with Nadine right here on The Conscious Cat: http://consciouscat.net/2009/07/06/an-interview-with-nadine-m-rosin-author-of-the-healing-art-of-pet-parenthood/ Thanks for your comment, Sara. I agree that Nadine’s book is a wonderful resource as well. You can also read my interview with Nadine right here on The Conscious Cat: http://consciouscat.net/2009/07/06/an-interview-with-nadine-m-rosin-author-of-the-healing-art-of-pet-parenthood/

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