Comments on: How to Cope With Losing a Pet http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/ conscious living, health and happiness for cats and their humans Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:18:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-41102 Ingrid Thu, 03 Nov 2011 18:53:11 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-41102 Oh Elizabeth, I'm so sorry! My heart goes out to you. Not knowing what happened to Willy, in a lot of ways, is a far more difficult loss than having a pet die. Don't give up hope just yet. I'm sure you've done everything you can from flyers to calling veterinary clinics and shelters in your area to posting pictures of him on Facebook. He may still come back to you. I wish I could tell you how to get past this - but I'm not sure anybody can really get past something like this. I think the best you can hope for is that eventually, you'll find peace - and that, I believe, will happen in time. Eventually, the pain of missing him will be replaced by memories of your time together, but right now, it just hurts. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Oh Elizabeth, I’m so sorry! My heart goes out to you. Not knowing what happened to Willy, in a lot of ways, is a far more difficult loss than having a pet die.

Don’t give up hope just yet. I’m sure you’ve done everything you can from flyers to calling veterinary clinics and shelters in your area to posting pictures of him on Facebook. He may still come back to you.

I wish I could tell you how to get past this – but I’m not sure anybody can really get past something like this. I think the best you can hope for is that eventually, you’ll find peace – and that, I believe, will happen in time. Eventually, the pain of missing him will be replaced by memories of your time together, but right now, it just hurts. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-41101 Elizabeth Thu, 03 Nov 2011 18:41:36 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-41101 Hi Ingrid....I just came across your website...while looking for something on the internet for advice on how to deal with a cat that's gone missing. I feel tremendous guilt right now - as I let my black cat "Willy" stay outside the Friday night before Halloween weekend. I don't know how I could be so naive...to think that would be ok. I just thought I needed to worry about Halloween day - not the weekend before. Anyway....its now Thursday and its almost one week. My heart is in shreds every time I look out on the patio or come home (he would normally greet me at the car) and he's still not there. I've even dreamed about seeing him again. Its extremely painful - as I really don't know what to tell myself. And - I'm sure my friends are getting sick of hearing me talk about it. I can't stop crying. I did have an ID chip in him but not a collar - as his collars always came off. I just wish I could go back to Friday night of last week and scoop him up and take him into my house..... How does anyone ever get past this? :-( Hi Ingrid….I just came across your website…while looking for something on the internet for advice on how to deal with a cat that’s gone missing. I feel tremendous guilt right now – as I let my black cat “Willy” stay outside the Friday night before Halloween weekend. I don’t know how I could be so naive…to think that would be ok. I just thought I needed to worry about Halloween day – not the weekend before.

Anyway….its now Thursday and its almost one week. My heart is in shreds every time I look out on the patio or come home (he would normally greet me at the car) and he’s still not there. I’ve even dreamed about seeing him again. Its extremely painful – as I really don’t know what to tell myself. And – I’m sure my friends are getting sick of hearing me talk about it. I can’t stop crying.

I did have an ID chip in him but not a collar – as his collars always came off. I just wish I could go back to Friday night of last week and scoop him up and take him into my house…..

How does anyone ever get past this? :-(

]]> By: Briana http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-25218 Briana Fri, 01 Apr 2011 23:38:26 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-25218 I have called my local animal shelter but they don't have her. Also, I'll post her up on FaceBook and see if my friends will be nice enought to help and look. And I've been asking around my neighborhood but everyone says no. PPlus, I've already sadly seen two dead cats and it's just saddening me more. I have called my local animal shelter but they don’t have her. Also, I’ll post her up on FaceBook and see if my friends will be nice enought to help and look. And I’ve been asking around my neighborhood but everyone says no. PPlus, I’ve already sadly seen two dead cats and it’s just saddening me more.

]]> By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-24990 Ingrid Thu, 31 Mar 2011 10:36:45 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-24990 Oh Briana, I'm so sorry about Akira! My heart goes out to you. When a pet goes missing, the emotions can be the same we feel when a pet has died, and in a lot of ways, not knowing what happened can make the grief worse. Don't give up yet, though. Keep looking for her. Have you posted flyers in your neighborhood with Akira's photo and information? Did you call your local shelters? Put an ad in your local paper. There is a website where you can post information about a lost pet, the link is http://www.oliveralert.com. If you're on Facebook, post her photo with a description and ask your friends to share. Oh Briana, I’m so sorry about Akira! My heart goes out to you. When a pet goes missing, the emotions can be the same we feel when a pet has died, and in a lot of ways, not knowing what happened can make the grief worse.

Don’t give up yet, though. Keep looking for her. Have you posted flyers in your neighborhood with Akira’s photo and information? Did you call your local shelters? Put an ad in your local paper. There is a website where you can post information about a lost pet, the link is http://www.oliveralert.com. If you’re on Facebook, post her photo with a description and ask your friends to share.

]]> By: Briana http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-24944 Briana Thu, 31 Mar 2011 02:42:13 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-24944 Hey Ingrid, it's me Briana again. Sadly, my 7 month old kitten Akira has gone missing for about two weeks with no sign of her from anywhere. I've been searching for her during the mornings and night but my mom says it's useless. How am I going to cope with my asthma and my slight depression now? I mean she was the only thing in my life that really kept me going and now she's gone and I don't even want to come home afterschool but I do since I still have my 2 dogs to take care of. I'll still keep looking out for her though. I don't want to lose my kitty after six whole years without one. Hey Ingrid, it’s me Briana again. Sadly, my 7 month old kitten Akira has gone missing for about two weeks with no sign of her from anywhere. I’ve been searching for her during the mornings and night but my mom says it’s useless. How am I going to cope with my asthma and my slight depression now? I mean she was the only thing in my life that really kept me going and now she’s gone and I don’t even want to come home afterschool but I do since I still have my 2 dogs to take care of. I’ll still keep looking out for her though. I don’t want to lose my kitty after six whole years without one.

]]> By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-5373 Ingrid Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:06:06 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-5373 I'm so sorry for your loss, Patrick. I think those sudden, unexpected losses are the worst - it's such a shock, from one moment to the next, your life has changed irrevocably. Even though noone can feel what you're feeling - your relationship with Misty was special - there are people who do understand what you're going through. When we take these wonderful animals into our lives, we unfortunately open ourselves to the pain of eventually losing them. I hope that in time, your pain of missing Misty will be replaced with memories of your time together. I have some additional articles on my other site that may help you cope with your loss: http://ingridking.com/category/pet-loss/ I've also found Christine Davis' Pet Loss Comfort site helpful: http://www.lightheartedpress.com/pet-loss/pet-loss-support.html I’m so sorry for your loss, Patrick. I think those sudden, unexpected losses are the worst – it’s such a shock, from one moment to the next, your life has changed irrevocably. Even though noone can feel what you’re feeling – your relationship with Misty was special – there are people who do understand what you’re going through. When we take these wonderful animals into our lives, we unfortunately open ourselves to the pain of eventually losing them.

I hope that in time, your pain of missing Misty will be replaced with memories of your time together.

I have some additional articles on my other site that may help you cope with your loss:
http://ingridking.com/category/pet-loss/

I’ve also found Christine Davis’ Pet Loss Comfort site helpful:
http://www.lightheartedpress.com/pet-loss/pet-loss-support.html

]]> By: Patrick http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-5371 Patrick Tue, 09 Feb 2010 08:39:52 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-5371 My 12 year old cat Misty died a little over a month ago. I still feel the hole in my heart over the loss of my little boy. Guilt remains. He died suddenly, I heard him moan from the next room, a sound I never heard before in my life, I didn't even realize it came from him right away, the sound was unrecognizable. when I got to him he passed. Lifeless on the floor. I really expected him to live til 20, I took him for granted, he seemed healthy. I haven't been dealing with this to well. It was me and him against the world, no matter how rotten people were to you in your life, there was always Misty and I together at the end of the day. Now it's an empty home. I never expected the pain to be this powerful at losing him. I don't want another cat, I want my cat back. It feels better to post this with fellow pet owners. TY for reading. My 12 year old cat Misty died a little over a month ago. I still feel the hole in my heart over the loss of my little boy. Guilt remains. He died suddenly, I heard him moan from the next room, a sound I never heard before in my life, I didn’t even realize it came from him right away, the sound was unrecognizable. when I got to him he passed. Lifeless on the floor.
I really expected him to live til 20, I took him for granted, he seemed healthy. I haven’t been dealing with this to well.
It was me and him against the world, no matter how rotten people were to you in your life, there was always Misty and I together at the end of the day. Now it’s an empty home. I never expected the pain to be this powerful at losing him.
I don’t want another cat, I want my cat back.
It feels better to post this with fellow pet owners. TY for reading.

]]> By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-5165 Ingrid Mon, 01 Feb 2010 11:57:03 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-5165 I am so sorry for your loss, Dannielle. The shock of the unexpected and sudden nature of your loss makes this devastating. My heart goes out to you and your partner. Jonsey sounds like she was a delightful, loving, happy cat - and to have her torn from your lives in this way must feel like your heart was ripped out. I wish there were words that can take this pain away. Please know that you're in my thoughts. Be gentle with yourself during this difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss, Dannielle. The shock of the unexpected and sudden nature of your loss makes this devastating. My heart goes out to you and your partner. Jonsey sounds like she was a delightful, loving, happy cat – and to have her torn from your lives in this way must feel like your heart was ripped out. I wish there were words that can take this pain away. Please know that you’re in my thoughts. Be gentle with yourself during this difficult time.

]]> By: Dannielle http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-5164 Dannielle Mon, 01 Feb 2010 09:35:47 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-5164 We lost our little 9 month old cat( Jonsey) yesterday 31/02/10 to a reaction to the annastetic.We wanted to have her spayed/nutere.I just assumed everything would be ok ,we would take her home give here plenty of love and she would recover from her operation I didnt know about this reaction that animals could have to the annastetic .I didnt know this could happen.Jonsey was such an individual very loving and never meowed loved to purrrr.loved attention.My partner will be at home this afternoon reading his paper lounging on the sofa and she wont be there to hop up on to his chest and crumpel up his paper wanting pets and her rub.Last night we sat down and had a cry together.We just did not see this coming. We lost our little 9 month old cat( Jonsey) yesterday 31/02/10 to a reaction to the annastetic.We wanted to have her spayed/nutere.I just assumed everything would be ok ,we would take her home give here plenty of love and she would recover from her operation I didnt know about this reaction that animals could have to the annastetic .I didnt know this could happen.Jonsey was such an individual very loving and never meowed loved to purrrr.loved attention.My partner will be at home this afternoon reading his paper lounging on the sofa and she wont be there to hop up on to his chest and crumpel
up his paper wanting pets and her rub.Last night we sat down and had a cry together.We just did not see this coming.

]]> By: karen http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-2201 karen Sat, 26 Sep 2009 19:00:35 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-2201 Hi Ingrid, thank you for this thoughtful and well-written article. Hi Ingrid, thank you for this thoughtful and well-written article.

]]> By: Ingrid http://consciouscat.net/2009/08/05/how-to-cope-with-losing-a-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-944 Ingrid Mon, 10 Aug 2009 17:57:41 +0000 http://consciouscat.net/?p=1164#comment-944 I'm so sorry about Miss Girl, Tammy. Even knowing that she wouldn't be able to make the trip and transition, it still must have been so painful to make this decision for her. At the same time, I'm sure knowing that she's buried near other animals of yours must bring some comfort. I'm glad you and your husband can share memories of Miss Girl as you settle into your new house. Even though her physical energy wasn't part of the new house, she will become a part of it by living on in your hearts. I’m so sorry about Miss Girl, Tammy. Even knowing that she wouldn’t be able to make the trip and transition, it still must have been so painful to make this decision for her. At the same time, I’m sure knowing that she’s buried near other animals of yours must bring some comfort. I’m glad you and your husband can share memories of Miss Girl as you settle into your new house. Even though her physical energy wasn’t part of the new house, she will become a part of it by living on in your hearts.

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